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HELP!?? Getting married. Wedding night?
Friday, August 27th, 2010
I recently got engaged and I need help on a few things about the honeymoon/wedding night.
1. I’ve never had sex before so could you give me tips on the first time and how to be very sexy and seductive.
2. Could you give me some sites BESIDE VICTORIAS SECRET that have REALLY good VERY VERY sexy lingerie. It can be expensive.
3. Give me some advice and tips on your honeymoon and wedding night, and times after your married(like sex wise)
thanks
Yikes… I would REALLY not worry about being sexy and seductive. This guy has probably waited a long time to make love to you, and that’s all the seduction he needs, trust me. You’re both going to be nervous, and I hate to break this to you, but it may hurt. It might hurt a little, it might hurt a lot, it might be downright excruciating. Or, you may get lucky and it doesn’t hurt at all. There’s no way to know until it happens. Just have him start out very slow and very gentle, and go from there. It may need to remain slow and gentle the whole time, or you may be able to get a little more errr…. active, so to speak.
Honestly, my best advice is - do not build up ANY expectations about it. Like it’s going to be all roses and champagne, happy sexy times, and an amazing sexual experience for the both of you. I’m not saying that it absolutely WON’T be this way, but the odds are in favor of it not necessarily being a star-spangled experience. However things end up being, just accept them as they are. If you build up some fantasy expectations, and then the night doesn’t meet those expectations, you will be disappointed. And who wants the memory of their wedding night to be disappointment? Remember, you have the rest of your lives to learn how to have spectacular sex. There doesn’t HAVE to be fireworks on the wedding night.
Also, don’t get caught up in all this "sexy lingerie" stuff. I’ve spoken to many, many men on this topic and all of them are very, very happy with a naked woman. But, if you feel that you just MUST have it, like you just don’t feel sexy without it… then well, go for it. But I can’t give you much personal advice and where to get great lingerie (besides VS), because I just don’t wear the stuff. To be honest, I would feel positively ridiculous in it. My husband likes me naked, and that’s A-OK with me.
Anyway, good luck, and like I said - don’t build up your expectations, be yourself, and try to relax and let the night be what it will.
Add about Christopher’s answer: It sounds like they have a wonderful marriage, in many ways. And more than 4-5 times a week?? That is truly something. Really, it is. The average married couple is lucky for once or twice a week. For some folks, it may be once a month. It’s important to remember that there is NO such thing as a "normal" frequency for a couple to have sex. Every couple is different and what works for one couple doesn’t work for another. As long as it’s a frequency that you both can live with, then it’s fine.
One more add: This should go without saying, but don’t listen to disgusting, ridiculous, chauvinist comments like the one from "The T".
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